Beyond the Shields of Shyness and Exceeding Social Expectations

 Almost every individual would have experienced being shy at least once in their lifetime. They may be very shy as a child. Some may be very reluctant in their teenage years.

 Others may have bouts of shyness in certain situations even in their adult years.

Thus, shyness is not a new thing to most people. To some, it is something that can be overcome as time and years pass by.

However, to other people, this is a usual reality. There are too many social expectations, yet shyness has taken into extreme levels. This should not be the case, because many lives have been ruined and lots of potentials may not be realized because of shyness.

Again, shyness is characterized by the lack of ability or complete disregard to interact and express the self to other people. This personality is often associated with the people who suffer from having low self-esteem.

This is basically characterized by lack of confidence in the self and lack of faith in the skills and capabilities. This person has the tendency to think that any thing or venture he or she does will result into a complete failure.

Thus, to most people who want to address the problem of shyness, the best resort is to build up on the self-esteem.

Reviewing Self-Esteem

In contrast with the people who suffer from the low self-esteem, the ideal personality is one who has a good self-esteem. Self-esteem is defined by the confidence a person has in his or her self. This is the actual belief in own merits, worth and purpose.

A person with the right self-esteem is capable of doing many things because he or she has a good idea of the things that can be done with excellence. This person is capable of becoming successful, financially stable, having lots of friends and even having meaningful relationships.

These are some of the things that make high self-esteem a desirable value, especially in this complicated world we are living in.

Why Do Some People Lack Confidence and Become Shy? There are many reasons that make a person become shy.

There are those who consider this as part of the genetic makeup of the individual. Truly, there are some people who are predisposed in being introverted. However, these people often have a creative outlet to express themselves like photography, sculpture, music or painting.

There are also some cultures that really encourage their citizens to become timid and shy. There are still instances where women must behave according to a certain code. They must be reserved and be not expressive.

However, the two examples above are more of the exceptional circumstances. Majority of the cases of shyness are the result of psychological factors.

Some people may have been too hurt, unloved or rejected as a child. These undesirable events during the childhood contribute very much into shaping a shy attitude. Some cases also are due to lack of attention or display of affection.

These are just some of the factors that affect shy people. It is imperative to be aware of these as to not encourage the development of such character.

Social Expectations and Shyness

The social expectation is another matter for shy people. Usually, people expect too much from the person. Society even encourages such, given that we live today in a very competitive world.

Someone who lacks confidence may not be able to live up with such expectations. Often times, such social expectations may further frustrate the self-esteem of the person.

Thus, it is imperative to be aware of the pressures and expectations exerted into a shy person. Be conscious of these forces as they will not help in the situation.

Here, instead, are some tips to be able to boost the self-esteem:

1. Talk to the person and give words of encouragement.

2. Find a special skill the shy person is good at. Praise it and encourage it.

3. Make the person feel capable of doing things. Provide goals that are simple. Make him or her realize any accomplishments then progress with time.

4. Listen to the person well when he or she speaks or shares something. This helps in boosting confidence.

5. Provide love and affection. A simple hug will do a lot.

Conclusion

Life is about discovering and expressing the true self. It is also about interacting with other people. It is about enjoying the blessings in this world with wonderful individuals that can make life more colorful.