How the Shy Person Can Make Friends

Shy kids can make new friends

Shy children can be very cautious with the people they meet, the situations they encounter and places they go. In the course of assessing other shy children, they too sometimes reveal harsh behaviors such as being judgmental with what they see and who they meet.

Therefore, it is very important that parents guide their shy child well especially in dealing with other people specifically potential friends of their child like classmates, playmates, neighborhood kids, cousins and so on.

Parents, too, should provide opportunity for their kids to interact with other children like arranging play dates with classmates who live nearby your home even before the start of school.

Give them the freedom to invite their classmates into your home and let her do the entertaining part by engaging deep conversation among the children. Pay close attention to what the kids are talking about and check if there is any hint of rejection shown to your child or if he is behaving properly and being nice to his visitors.

Be a role model to your child by being friendly to others and starting conversations with your neighbors. This way, your child will see that there is no problem talking to other people outside the family and she will begin to imitate you with confidence.

How do shy children make friends?

Like all other kids, more than anything, shy children only want friends to go with her and share the things she likes. As soon as he reached school-age, significant things in his life will change. As he reached mid-year, the significance of peer acceptance is very high for him. So, it is important too that parents share the responsibility with their child to look and choose the right friends.

Choosing friends – most children want to have friends who enjoy doing the same things as he does. If your child feels so comfortable and accepted by her new found friends, the tendency is they will form a group and have a name to call themselves. Nothing beats this experience. But most often shy children may maintain only a few sets of friends sometimes confined to a trio.

Making friends – parents should equip their children on how to start making friends. Shy children who were taught social skills early on in their lives will find little difficulty gaining friends.

1. It all starts with a smile. A smile takes you a long way. It has a lasting impression that you are friendly and very approachable. If your child is afraid to show a smile, you can help her practice by letting her face in the mirror and practice that enigmatic smile.

2. Another tip for your shy child is guiding her to engage in a conversation by saying something nice to a person. Teach your kids how to compliment people and say nice things to them.

3. A good tip that will help your shy child continue on with the conversation is to ask questions about the likes and dislikes of his new acquaintance such as who is your favorite singer, actress or actor? Where do you live? Who is your teacher?

4. Advice your child too, not just to ask many questions but to engage himself in the conversation by contributing answers to his questions too.

5. Shy kids are not used to being complemented. As parents, you may have to train your kids on how they will respond to complements politely by simply saying “thank you.”

6. Lastly, you child should be a friend to other children. Train your child to be friendly and be a friend to others.

Children too have their own set of laws in establishing friendships with other children. They have what they call as Laws of Friendship.  Slowly study these following set of laws:

Friendship starts at a very early stage of infancy or babyhood. Naturally, your child’s first best friend is you his parent. But as your child grows older and meets other children, your role as a parent becomes more emphasized than the best friend you used to be. They find other children more suitable friends and would soon take up most of their interests and energy.

Friendship is the crowning glory of childhood. If other things are imposed in children’s lives like school, food and bedtime, friendship is something more precious because they get to choose the friends they want for themselves.

Oftentimes, children can only handle a limited number of friends and they usually lose some of their friends in the process.

Every child possesses their own temperament. Usually shy children, confine themselves with a small number of friends. You can advice your child to adjust and stretch a little bit.

Growing up children will always experience difficulty and conflicts with friends. You should prepare your shy child for this scenario too.

Children are often attracted to the idea of trios. But this is oftentimes a source of conflict. Just be ready to confront it.

Young children have the tendency to play with the same gender in school.

When they reach the age of ten or eleven they began taking notice the opposite sex.

Children experiment with social power. Kids play with social power by testing how effective they are.

Nearing the adolescent years, children are no longer simply contented with making friends but they are already exploring other areas. They are now more interested in being popular and accepted.

Shy children have their own ways of developing friendships. It is just a matter of guidance from parents and right individuals. It is best not to push the child to doing things but instead offer them ways and let them discover their own style of doing things.

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